I completed the Genogram assignment today. I am having difficulty posting it, but will share my thoughts. The process was somewhat difficult because both my parents and grandparents are deceased and I was a young adult at the time. The part that I regret was never talking to my grandfather about his Native American heritage. When I was younger he never wanted to talk about his mother being a full blooded Native American, in fact he often felt ashamed about it and wanted to distance himself from it. I wish I could go back in time and tell him to be proud of it, that I am proud being his granddaughter. I have shared the heritage with my children and want them to be proud of it.
Some of the questions were difficult as well, because my mother was abusive to me. So, I struggled with that part. However, in her later years we did have a restored relationship and I have broken that cycle of abuse with my daughter. I do appreciate my family's work ethic that was passed down.
I noticed also that the education level increased over time. I was the first in my family's to graduate with a four year degree and now I'm getting my Master's degree. It has been a dream of mine to be a high school counselor and I'm excited about what the future holds for me in counseling all students with their career choices.
Frances
Frances,
ReplyDeleteYour post is really powerful. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us. Unlike you, I had a stable childhood with supportive parents that are still actively involved in my life today, but like you, I grew up not knowing much about my family’s roots. It saddens me to hear that you had a difficult upbringing, but I believe that you will be able to use your personal experiences to relate more personally to each student that you counsel. Instead of simply offering empathy, you will be able to provide actual sympathy.
I commend you on the desire and ability to break the cycle of abuse for your daughter and for being the first to earn a college degree in your family. Your aptitude to continue accomplishing goals is a testament to those around you.
<3 Leigha
Great reflection! I too would echo your pride to your Native American relatives. And, thank you for your honestly. Sometimes we are allowed to experience suffering to reach the compassionate levels students will need in today's society--because many struggle! Dr. H
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